- Have a life outside your job. Keep friends who have a good grasp of reality and with whom you can share life that’s totally unrelated to the job you do. Refuse to even talk about your work outside work hours, especially if the environment is toxic. This includes talking work with family members. Family time is just that family time!
- Realize that most of what goes on at work and most of the negativity, even that directed at you, isn’t about you. Consider the stress your coworkers are facing at work, at home and in their personal lives and understand that they’re projecting and displacing their anger onto you and others around them as well. Any time someone displays a sideways behavior, it is a reflection of inner turmoil, and is not what they really are intending to project.
- Refuse to let your coworkers’ workaholism, ambitions and selfish behaviors seep into your system. It’s easy to start letting negative behavior creep in by agreeing with perspectives or taking sides. Instead, choose to rise above it all by remaining neutral. This is one of the hardest things you will ever do. However, if you stay true to yourself, you will be amazed at what you can overcome.
- Guard your thoughts; they eventually become your reality. Make sure the negativity around you doesn’t keep playing in your head. Play music at your desk at a reasonable volume if you feel it helps center you. Take breaks to collect your thoughts. Keep positive reminders in quotes and pictures around your work space. And don’t allow yourself to be drawn into conversations of idle gossip. This is the #1 killer of good karma.
- Consider your options for finding other employment if the situation is unbearable. Some bosses can be emotionally abusive; if the company environment doesn’t look likely to change, evaluate whether this is really the best place for you. You are only in control of 3 things… your thoughts, your actions and your feelings. Once you realize this and take steps to be in control of you, your surroundings will soon become something that you can deal with.
Not everyone plays by the rules, it’s up to you, and you alone to choose whether you want to remain in a negative environment or seek a position elsewhere. Follow your heart (or as some say “gut feeling”) and find the peace and happiness you deserve when it comes to the work place.
If you know someone or work with someone facing negativity or is simply broken, suggest that they check out SOS at Zac’s Ridge. This organization has help over a thousand individuals find the peace and freedom they deserve from a negative lifestyle. www.sosinc.org